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Thursday, June 22, 2017

Bonnie Mangrum Obituary

MANGRUM, Bonnie — (~February 2000 - 21 June 2017)  Bonnie Mangrum (nee “Ginger #2) passed away surrounded by family on Wednesday, June 21, 2017. She is survived by humans, Thom Eagan and Jason, Valerie and Calleigh Mangrum, fellow canines, Joey Eagan and Bailey Mangrum, felines Figaro and Bobby Mangrum, and Pickles the Hedgehog.

We don’t know when Bonnie was born or exactly how old she is. A rescue pup, she found us at an adoption outfit out of PetSmart called “Abandoned Angels” in September 2000. After waiting for our chocolate lab, Brinkley, to outgrow his puppy stage and after countless chewed pillows, comforters, door frames, baseboards and half of one unlucky couch, our vet suggested two options:  a lifetime of anxiety medication or a friend. We chose the latter.  Living in a small starter home, we knew our second fur child should be smaller in stature and we set off that day to bring home a beagle. 

Brinkley was in tow and each prospective candidate we introduced him to went a little more badly than the previous. As we were leaving, the woman running the adoption clinic told us to stop back by the next time they were going to be there as they would have new animals from which to choose. As we spoke, I looked behind her and there were a handful of dogs in crates, locked up and not being paraded around like the others. When I inquired who they were and if they were already adopted, she laughed a dismissive laugh, waved her hand and said, “oh, those? They’re not the most adoptable. They have issues of one kind or another.” That’s the first time I saw Bonnie, who was labeled “Ginger #2” as there was already a Ginger who was sporting a bandana and being walked out front on the sidewalk. 

Bonnie's adoption picture, 2000


I asked if we could see Ginger #2 and the woman shrugged and reluctantly opened her door and pulled her out. The deal was done. My heart melted immediately, Brinkley didn’t try to eat her, and they were getting ready to pack up for the day. We were told that Bonnie had been brought to the shelter under some unknown or better-not-discussed circumstances and that she had likely been the victim of some abuse in her early days. We lied on the adoption paperwork and said we had a fenced in yard. I whispered to her on the ride home that she was safe, she would be loved, no one would ever hurt her again, and that she would not suffer one more day.

I held her on a towel on my lap as we drove home.

In the days and weeks that followed, we found that, rather than preventing Brinkley from making messes and being destructive, Ginger #2, renamed Bonnie, was just making her own set of messes. One night after coming home from work to find yet another pillow victim and a puddle in the floor, I called the adoption agency and said I just didn’t think this was going to work. The woman explained a schedule conflict and said she was out of town and could I give it another week until I returned her. In that week, Bonnie completed the task of completely and irrevocably stealing my heart and I felt ashamed for years to come for considering returning her. God works in mysterious ways indeed.

Christmas Card photo 2000.


Bonnie and Brinkley soon became the best of friends, vying for the same couch cushion, jockeying over positions in the bed, playing tug of war together with a rope bone, and snuggling rear to rear while napping.

We had this huge, couch-shaped dog bed in our living
room and they occasionally let humans use it.




Bonnie’s loves in life included treats, being held, kisses, eating chicken, and going for rides in the car.







Christmas Card photo 2001



Bonnie was a friend to all, accepting a new baby, the cats as they entered our lives, and even a hedgehog.






Christmas Card photo 2002

Christmas Card photo 2003














Things are about to change
July 2004


Someone new.
September 2004

After neutralizing the threat, Bonnie found this new
addition would be a good friend.


Making room for one more



Celebrating another year, 2008


After losing Brinkley in 2011 at the age of 15, Bonnie enjoyed being an only dog until rescue Bailey came into our hearts and home. Bringing a new family member home, especially one with an abusive past and trust issues, is always a tightrope walk. We learned the hard way that a slow introduction cannot be underscored enough and Bonnie wound up on the receiving end of a warning blow from Bailey over territory. The girls eventually worked through their issues, order was restored, and they became buddies.










December 2013
I think this is going to work.

No one believed how old Bonnie was, beginning around the age of 12 or 13. In disbelief, we would be asked, “are you sure she’s that old?” My answer never changed:  “no, we don’t know exactly how old she is. All I know is how long we’ve had her.”

July 2012

Bonnie loved me immensely.
She loved chicken more.















January 2015

No shame here


December 2015
Joey joins our family.














Christmas morning, 2015

Sleeping bottom to bottom














Bath time

Time to go
Bonnie was always up for a ride


Around age 15, her joints, hearing and sight all began to fail her at the same time. She was mobile up until a couple of days ago. Her sight gradually slipped away. She didn’t hear me whisper “I love you” daily for a few years.






Camping, May 2016


Saying goodbye
June 21, 2017

On Monday night, she took a turn and I watched Tuesday as her light slipped away. Wednesday, I held her on a towel on my lap as we drove to our precious vet, Dr. Lauren Wall at Hillsboro Animal Hospital. Dr. Wall helped us say a final farewell to this amazing dog. As she departed, I whispered in her ear that she was safe, she was loved, no one would ever hurt her again, and that she would not suffer one more day.


Thank you, Bonn, for 17 wonderful years of puppy love. 

"In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety." -Psalm 4:8



Sunday, April 9, 2017

Ever heard of a 'birthday basket?'



I won’t be celebrating my birthday this year. Oh, before you classify me among countless Cathy cartoons and withered actresses who refute growing older simply by not celebrating the passing of any more years, let me explain. With my birthday of April 16, occasionally (exactly six times in the past and coming 20 years - including this year) my day falls on Easter weekend. When this happens, those closest to me know I defer my observance by one week. So, you see, although I won’t be marking my birthday this year, you can bet your bottom dollar I will be celebrating my birth.

As an only child, it’s said of us that we don’t know how to share. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I know how to share. I just prefer not to. And certainly not with Jesus. Easter is one of my favorite times of year. Aside from it being the highest of Christian holidays and all contained therein, it also ushers in white clothes, sleeveless tops, warmer weather, greener grass and relief from out under the cruel, oppressive winter. There’s enough going on that I feel no need to throw something else on that day’s plate.

In an effort to be clever this year, I went in to my profile on Facebook and changed my birthday by one week to April 23. I’m serious — anyone who wishes me “happy birthday” next Sunday will be met with a polite yet distant smile and nod. I will have my heart and mind on something far greater and I want everyone else to do the same. It allowed me to update my birthdate easily enough - suppressing those known both well and hardly at all wishing me sentiments - but then once complete, a message popped up saying “just a warning…you are only allowed to change your birthday so many times.” So, for those of you playing at home, the score is Valerie-0, Facebook-1. Well played, Zuckerberg.

Nevertheless, I wish you the happiest of April 16ths and a Happy Easter. It is indeed a day worth celebrating. 



Just remember to mark down April 23 this year, too. ;)




Wondering how Easter works? It’s simple, really:


In 325CE the Council of Nicaea established that Easter would be held on the first Sunday after the first full moon occurring on or after the vernal equinox. From that point forward, the Easter date depended on the ecclesiastical approximation of March 21 for the vernal equinox.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

A Letter to Bird on Valentine's Day



My darling girl - 

With you and your friends on the brink of becoming actual teenagers, I watch as you all navigate   changing interests and evolving dynamics. Who has a crush on whom has become the topic of the day and now there’s talk of boyfriends and girlfriends. I’ve even heard the “D” word tossed around, although I’m not sure what that looks like for two 12-year-olds and am content in my ignorance. I’m afraid at 42, I am just about as awkward as I was at 12 and can’t offer a lot of advice in the area of pre-teen dating, being cool, and playing the field. What I can offer you is some motherly advice, anchored with some Biblical truth. 

Chase your dreams, not boys.
You will see some of your friends go after a guy. They will hunt and pursue like a lion in the Serengeti. Some of them will even be successful, but it will be short-lived and unfulfilling. I’m all for “girl power” and encouraging ladies to be strong and aggressive and going after what we want, but there is a natural order to things and the guy needs to take the lead on this one.

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your dreams.”
Proverbs 16:3

Play hard, but not impossible, to get.
You don’t have to go on a date with the first guy who smiles at you and you don’t have to marry the first person you date. When someone shows interest in you, if you share that interest, be nice and kind but don’t fall over backwards with excitement. Let them know you have a life and interests and pursuits aside from them. Be approachable and available without being needy and desperate.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is - His good, pleasing, and perfect will.”
Romans 12:2

Be a friend first.
Don’t try to like someone after you love them. Passion is powerful and strong and exciting, but it’s like a star that burns out over time. When the dust settles, you need a strong foundation upon which a true relationship can rest. Being friends first will allow you to be with people who share your interests and let you really get to know a person.

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”
Proverbs 17:17

Be yourself.
It’s tempting to try to impress a boy you like. When the right one comes along, you won’t have to be anything but yourself. Also, people can see through someone trying to be fake or someone they’re not. Besides, if the only way to get a boy to like you is to pretend to be someone or something you’re not, he’s not the one and is not worth your time. And never, ever let a boy change who you are. If he doesn’t like your friends, your family, or your interests, then he doesn’t truly like you. 

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Galatians 1:10

Be patient.
This one is hard. Especially when you feel like your friends have all moved to a different place than where you are. Know that God has chosen someone precious and suited just for you and you all will find each other in His time.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends al understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7

Best of luck, sweet girl. Know that you are already immeasurably loved and you are a princess in God’s Kingdom.


Love,
Mother

14 February 2017

Thursday, January 26, 2017

As I Live and Die





Well, I almost died yesterday. 

I tried to soften the melodramatic tone of that statement, but that just about sums it up. I ran a red light during busy, rush hour traffic. Totally my fault. I was second in line at a congested intersection. Tired from a day's work, I sat waiting my turn and reviewing my mental "to do" list for when I got home. The car in front of me suddenly went (a right turn, as it turned out) and the car across the intersection scooted up a bit, giving me the idea that our light had turned green. I proceeded to drive across and, as I passed under the traffic light, I looked up. A couple of things happened, all within a millisecond. 


  • I noticed the light was still red. 
  • I looked and saw a car stopped in the intersection where I had just driven in front of them and they had to brake quickly. 
  • I heard a horn blaring and realized another car from the other direction had to do the same thing (except they took the time to honk and wave at me with one finger).


And I sailed right through that intersection unscathed. (I'm sending my guardian angel a gift basket today.)




But something else happened that I hadn't really experienced before and am maybe OK never doing so again -- my life flashed before my eyes. You hear about it. You see it depicted in movies. But it actually happened, like a quick little Facebook "your life in pictures slideshow, dummy, 'cause you weren't paying attention back there."

It seemed like a lot of images, but these are the ones I remember vividly. Note, these are still photos I possess. The actual images during my near-death experience were moving, like the pictures in Harry Potter or little snippets from home movies.

I saw a younger Daddy, smiling and waving at me.

I saw this little girl, whom I barely remember.


I saw a young and healthy Mom, laughing.



And I saw a young Jason, waiting anxiously at the altar as Daddy and I made our way down the aisle.


So, the morale of the story? I guess pay attention at red lights and live each day to its fullest. Be careful out there. Especially if you see me at an intersection.









Thursday, January 19, 2017

In with the new


I’m excited about inauguration day tomorrow. There, I said it. Not because of the changing of the proverbial guard, not because “my team” won, not because it’s the closest thing we have to a royal wedding with all of the red carpet pageantry and the “what is she wearing?” comments, although all of those things are good reasons. 

I’m excited because it’s a great opportunity for all of us. It’s Day One. It’s a beginning. There’s something comforting about tabula rasa - a blank slate - that allows you to take a deep breath and restart. You may not agree with President Trump’s election, his viewpoints, or comments he made 11 years ago. That’s OK. I’m probably not, either. But, like it or not, as of tomorrow, he’s the leader of the greatest country in the world for the next four years.

My prayer for him will be the same that it was for Obama:  Lord, please watch over this man and his family. Please don’t let anyone hurt him or his children. Be with him each day, in his words and actions, and let us see You in him. Let his decisions please You and better us.

Mr. Trump has chosen to take the oath upon two different Bibles:  his personal one and President Lincoln’s. How appropriate that he chose the Bible of another leader not liked by everyone and who lived (and died) trying to unify a fractured nation?

For a good piece about the choice of these two Bibles, check out this Post article.


A Facebook friend posted this meme a while back:


Indeed, we are all on the same plane and the pilot has crazy hair but he also has some pretty exciting plans and ideas. So, let's all try to enjoy the ride and behave. That means you, guy with the stinky sub sandwich shoveling chips in your mouth like you're loading coal on a locomotive. That means you, mother with two little kids screaming and crying. That means you, Chatty Cathy. See my headphones and book and slightly bothered look on my face and know I don't want to hear about your grandchildren, your destination, or the rash on your elbow. That means you, flight attendant. Yes, you already look bothered and we're still on the ground and the lady in front of me hasn't summoned you with the call button 8 times yet. Go get in your little jump seat and buckle up, sister. And, yes, it means you dude in front of me who reclines while we're still on the tarmac only to have to be told to return your seat to its upright position before we can take off. If those three centimeters actually provide you some comfort or solace, go for it. I guess I don't need my tray table.